mystery woman, "Why don’t you ask his friend?" I
ended up dating this girl for few months. I found out
from her later that the reason she approached me was
the way I walked in. We were in a group with about five
other guys and she said we all walked in looking good
and having a good time. I distinctly remember her say-ing, "You walked in like you owned the place." She ob-viously picked me out of the group, but we all looked
like somebody worth getting to know. Based on our
body language alone, we were interesting, and appeared
to be an attractive fun group of guys.
Body language is king in the game of pick up and
in everyday life. Remember only ten percent of what you
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say comes across in the message, the rest is body lan-guage. What you say is directly tied to your body lan-guage. If you are displaying confident body language,
the dialog in your conversation will be coming out in a
confident manner. You won’t be tripping over your
words. The words will be seemingly meaningless. They
will start to flow out rather than seem generic or re-hearsed. You will care less about what you are saying
and your conversations will become more fluid.
When I walk, I walk with purpose. I walk with an
aire of confidence and a little cockiness. I walk like I am
somebody. Some would say I walk around like I think
I’m better than everyone else. When I walk into a club
or bar, I walk in the same way. If I enter with girls, I am
arm and arm with one of them, with the others close by.
I walk tall with my head up, chest out, and I am smiling,
perhaps even laughing. I am having more fun than any-one there. I walk in with a purpose, like I own the place.
If I walk in with a group of guys, I walk in the same way.
I walk tall with a confident gait, head up, chest out, and
smiling. All of the things I am doing are putting off body
language signals that say I am confident, I am interest-ing, I have something to offer, I am having fun, and I am
fun to be around. I enter, and everyone in the bar
wants to know me.
Let’s break some of this down. Going places with
women, being seen with women, is a good thing. It gives
the women observing you peer approval. Meaning that
other women will think, “All those girls are with that guy
he must be really cool.” The women you are with know
you and like you, and are giving their "approval." So if I
walk in with women it gives all the other women in the
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bar approval from my peers. I'll take it one step further
by locking arms with them and laughing. Now not only
are these girls with me, but they are with me and touch-ing me. On top of that we are laughing and appear to be
having an awesome time. So all the girls in the bar, that
I will be gaming on later, are already thinking, “This guy
must really be interesting, he has girls all over him, they
are laughing, he is fun, he has something to offer, I want
to meet him.” You portray all that just by walking in the
door.
Now if it’s boys night out, I do the same thing but
I want to out Alpha Male them. We have taught all of
our friends this so we kind of all walk into the bar the
same way. It’s kind of a joke now, but again, we all walk
in confident, with our shoulders back, heads up, and
chest out. We are all usually laughing and joking
around, and we all have smiles on our faces. We are
showing everyone in the bar that we are about having
fun, we are the life of the party, come join in. Now I
want to out Alpha Male my friends, but not by making
them look stupid, I want to do subtle things that will
make me stand out from the group. You always want to
be the one that stands out. You want to be the guy that
women notice and say to themselves, “There is some-thing interesting about that guy and I’m going to find
out what it is."
When most guys are starting out learning how to
be an Alpha Male, they make the mistake of not telling
their friends about these hidden signals. They fear that
if they tell their friends what they know, then there will
be too much competition. While this is true to some
point, you will see better results by being in a dominant
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group than you would by being the lone Alpha Male.
People hang out in groups. Within the groups there is a
pack leader, or Alpha Male. When we go out to bars or
clubs we go out in our groups, as does everyone else.
The people at the bars and clubs are a big collection of
many groups, each with their own pack leader. When
we are at the bar not only do we compete against each of
the other Alpha Males, but every dominate group as
well. The dominate group, is the group women will fo-cus their attention on the most. Within that group they
will be looking for the pack leader. Therefore you must
teach those that you go out with how to be the dominate
group. My group is the one that is seen as the dominate
pack. Everyone in the group works together to display
confident body language, and all the looks will be head-ing our way. From here, all you need to do is place
yourself as the Alpha Male in the group. When they sit I
stand. I might place my hand on their shoulder when I
talk to them, or give them a pat on the back when I tell a
joke. Both are subtle signals of dominance over the
other. We are all there to help each other out, not get in
the way.
The first step in becoming an Alpha Male is to
carry yourself in this confident manner. This is some-thing you can practice all the time. You don't just flip a
switch when you get to the bar and become a confident
person. Girls will see right through you. If you want to
be better with women you need to make a change in
your lifestyle. Start carrying yourself in a confident
manner all the time. Even if you are a shy person, if
you act confident you will become confident. Have you
ever heard the expression fake it till you make it? Same
theory applies here. Carry yourself in a confident man-
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ner and you will become a confident person. If you ex-ude confidence, you will be perceived as a much more
interesting person. This will help you with your career,
with your peers, family, everything, not just with girls.
If you’re serious about getting better at interacting and
picking up women, you need to make a concerted effort
to become a more confident person. Women will see you
in a whole new light.
The second step in becoming an Alpha Male is
learning to claim your space. You want to be seen, the
center of attention. So when you are looking for space
to claim, move to the center of the room and begin
marking your territory. Place your drink down, place a
lighter down, place your jacket or coat down. You are
sending out the signal, “If you want this space, you are
going to have to take it from me!” The more space you
take up, the bigger your territory. The more territory
you have claimed, the more of an Alpha Male you will
be.
Where ever you go, immediately head for the cen-ter. Sitting on a couch, walking into the bar, entering a
room, it doesn’t matter. Make a direct line with no hesi-tation. From the moment you walk into a room, all eyes
will be on you if you in with a confident manner. Walk
tall, shoulders back, chest out, relaxed, with your head
up and smiling. This is what we mean when we tell you
to walk in a confident manner. You may not notice peo-ple looking at you, but they will definitely notice you.
The women will think you are interesting and want to
get to know you. The guys will all be jealous because
they know the attention is on you, and the women find
you interesting, not them. The next time you are at the
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bar, take a moment to watch the girls currently not talk-ing to any other guy. What are they doing? They are
watching the door to see who will come in next, to see if
the next guy that enters is the one for them. Take your
time to get where you are going, there is no rush, let the
women see everything you have to offer. Confident body
language will carry you. If you have poor body language
but have a killer opener and you approach a girl,
whether she finds you attractive or not, she will shortly
become uninterested. If you have great body language it
doesn’t matter what you say, she will be interested. Now
obviously you do not want to open her and be tripping
over your words, but if you just say the first genuine
thing that pops in your mind and have random conver-sation, your confidence will carry you.
So you have walked into the bar in a confident
manner displaying your Alpha Male body language. You
have made a direct line for the center of the room, claim-ing your territory. Now it is time to expand on your
space. Start making your rounds, talk to you friends,
order a beer. At each stop you make, continue display-ing the confident body language. You always want to be
on the prowl, looking for extended eye contact from a
cute female. This is not a linear process you need to fol-low step by step. It is a fluid dynamic. You must be
ready to pounce at every given opportunity. As you are
talking with your friends look around. You may notice a
girl that you did not see when you first walked in. She
may not have seen you make your entrance, or claim
your territory. Therefore, it is important to continuously
display these qualities.
If I am standing in a group with my friends, I like
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to stand with my feet roughly shoulder length apart.
You want to take up room to portray dominance in your
group. Stand up tall with your shoulders back, and
chest out, but in a relaxed fashion. Do not put your
hands in your pockets. That is a sign of nervousness.
Remember, you are going for confident. Another thing I
see people do is hold their beer in front of their chest.
Make sure you do not do this. It makes you look small
and closed off to conversation; you are putting up a bar-rier. You want to be taking up a reasonable amount of
space and putting out signals that say, “I’m open and
inviting.” Point your toes out slightly as opposed to pi-geon toed. This may seem like something small with lit-tle meaning but it is not. Women notice these things.
Something else I like to do that puts out an aire of con-fidence, is I sort of thrust my hips forward. Not pushed
way out looking like a retard but ever so slightly. I lock
my thumbs in my belt or pants pockets depending on
what I’m wearing and let my hands hang down my legs.
I have my fingertips pointed slightly at my cock. This is
a confident pose that also appeals to a woman's sexual
subconscious.
When you are standing at the bar, waiting for a
beer, you want to be scanning the room for potential
targets, while at the same time trying to get the bartend-ers attention. Use the bartender as a guide to how well
you are projecting confident body language. They will
notice you and serve you well before anyone else. The
women around the bar will notice this, so will all the
other guys, further strengthening the idea that you are
the Alpha Male. Continue to stand tall, make eye con-tact, and take up space. The bar area is always crowded
with people trying to get drinks, it is a true test of your
abilities.
Being Alpha Male is about portraying a certain
appearance. You don’t have to be the greatest looking
guy, the biggest guy, in perfect shape, or even the funni-est. It all comes back to your appearance and the mes-sage your body language sends out. You want to send
out a message of sexuality. You want to scream center
of attention, so when women see you they think, “Wow!
What is it about this guy that is exciting me? I don’t
know what it is but there is something and I want to
find out what it is that is so special about this guy.” The
ultimate goal is to be able to send out a message of
sexuality that makes other guys jealous and arouses a
woman’s excitement.
You have to learn to look, think, and act like an
Alpha Male. You need to move around and have the
body language that screams, “I’m big, I’m bad, you don’t
want to mess with me!” Becoming the Alpha Male can
be broken down into three categories, size, strength, and
attitude.
Becoming Alpha Male: Size
One way to show dominance is by being bigger
than everybody. We are raised to believe that bigger is
better. Large men appear more powerful and are rated
more attractive than smaller men. That doesn't mean
you have to be a muscle bound, cock diesel, ape. You
just need to learn how to appear large in your own
frame. If you are a big guy, learn to move and stand in a
way that is large in stature, not fat. If you are a small
guy use certain techniques to appear larger.
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Standing Tall
Tall men appear more dominant, but why is this?
Think about a business meeting, everyone is sitting at
the table, with the boss at the head of the table. When
the boss talks, he is the only one standing signaling to
everyone that he is in charge. When a police officer
walks up to your car, you are sitting there waiting for
them to walk up to your window. When he gets there he
is standing over you. Those are all situations where the
authority figure is displaying dominance. Now think of
when you eat out at a restaurant, the waiter will bend
down, or sit down next to you while taking your order so
that they are at eye level with you. They don’t want to
be dominate because they want the customer to feel
comfortable so they receive better tips. A waiter will por-tray inferiority.
How tall you appear, has little to do with how tall
you actually are. Obviously it is very hard to hide some-one who is 6’ 4”, but just because you are average
height, or smaller doesn't mean you cannot apply this
principle. When you are out with your friends and they
are sitting, stand up. You are the one people see, you
are the Alpha Male of the group. Women want to know
what makes you so dominant, and why you are better
than the rest of your friends. You should never slouch,
but if you are a short person it is extremely important to
stand tall. Get the most out of what you have. If you
are a larger guy, slouching will make you appear lazy
and sloppy.
Chest Out
Alpha Males thrust their chest out to display
their strong pectorals. Men do this both to women,
“Look at me I’m strong and will protect you!” And other
men, “I’m strong so you’d better not get in my way!” You
can exaggerate this move by turning your body at an
angle, showing off your chest profile. Women also do
this. They accentuate their chest to attract you. Again
this isn’t you having to put in hours at the gym to show
off your amazing pecs. It’s standing in a way that taps
into the subconscious of women. It doesn’t matter how
big your chest is, but rather that you are standing tall in
a way that says you are strong and have the ability to
protect her.
Shoulders Back
Pulling the shoulders back sticks the chest out.
Dropping the shoulders is a sign of laziness and poor
posture. Poor posture makes you look weak and pa-thetic. Pulling the shoulders back also helps the shorter
man appear to be taller. It helps the portly man appear
to be confident and comfortable in his skin.
Elbows
The elbows can be used to make us appear larger
than we really are. Just like a male bird will ruffle up
his feathers to appear larger, placing your hands on
your hips and sticking your elbows out will make you
look bigger, and expands the chest; another power dis-play.
Shoulder Width Stance
Keeping your feet at a shoulder width stance al-lows you to take up more space, making you appear lar-ger. It leaves the crotch open for attack. This is a signal
that says you are open and approachable, versus closed
off. By doing so it tells the world that you are not afraid
of any threats. Closing the legs protects the crotch from
attack, showing fear.
Toes Out
Pointing your toes outwards tells the room that
you are open for communication. Again, you are ap-proachable. Pointing the toes in, signals that you are
closed off and feel intimidated by your surroundings.
You never want to appear to be closed off or to have per-sonal barriers.
Becoming Alpha Male: Strength
Studies have shown that a woman’s favorite male
body part is broken down into three groups, legs, butts,
and the combination of the chest and arms. Surpris-ingly the male butt is top choice with forty percent.
Overall, women are looking for an athletic body shape.
Mix it with strong arms and a tight butt, you can’t go
wrong. Male bodies were built to hunt, chase food,
wrestle animals, and kill any potential threat. Even to-day women are still attracted to a man who looks like he
can provide these basic needs. We’re not saying you
need to be huge but you should be in shape. If you are
not in shape you need to start doing some kind of activ-ity. For skinny guys, start doing some sort of weight
training. Even if it is minor you will see major results.
If you are a round guy, start doing some kind of running
or walking. Again, even if it’s only two times a week for
ten to twenty minutes it will help. Do what you can.
Broad Shoulders
Broad Shoulders taper down to a narrow waist,
creating a V-Taper. This creates the most athletic look.
Men who appear to be physically fit are rated more attractive by women. Don’t stress out if this does not de-scribe you. What we are talking about is using what
you yourself have, and making the most of it; putting
yourself in the most attractive position possible.
Muscular Arms
Muscular arms show women that he is strong
and able to carry their kill over long distances. It also
gives them something to hold on to when walking
around the bar. Big, not huge, arms make a woman feel
safe. If you have big arms, wear something to show
them off. If you have bean pole arms, don’t wear large
baggy shirts. This will make your arms appear even
smaller. A tighter fitting shirt will actually make small
arms look bigger. You could also opt for a long sleeve
button down.
Tight Butt
A nice butt is a favorite of women everywhere.
You ask any woman at a football game what her favorite
part of the game was and ninety percent will say the
uniforms. The reason women find it so attractive is be-cause a tight, muscular rear is needed to make the
thrusting motion in sex. A strong thrusting motion will
provide greater success of sperm transfer. Wear pants
that are flattering to your particular body type.
Muscular Legs
Muscular legs are symbols of masculine power
and endurance. They allowed our ancestors to run
quickly over long distances to chase and hunt game.
Becoming Alpha Male: Attitude
The attitude of the Alpha Male is what gives us
that swagger. It’s prominent in our walk, the look in our
eye, the thunder in our voice. It’s the thing that women
can’t quite put their finger on when they are asking
themselves, “Why am I so attracted to this guy?” If you
have the right attitude, you will have the right confi-dence.
Thousand Yard Stare
Alpha Male’s hunt with their eyes. They use
them to look for their prey, and ward off all threats.
The eyes can be used to attract the girl across the room
or stare down any would be competition. As you scan
across the room for potential targets, move you eyes
slowly looking to make eye contact with the target. Eye
contact is very important in the body language game. It
is one of the things that allows you to display confi-dence. Without confidence, women will see right
through you no matter how well you present yourself.
When you make eye contact, hold it for an extra second,
doing so develops sexual chemistry. Throw in a smile to
show her you are sincere but it also is seen as a sign of
confidence. We are not saying to stare at every cute girl
you see until she looks in your direction, but as you are
looking around, catch her eye and hold contact, rather
than quickly looking away. If you are shy, chances are
you have very poor eye contact. Start practicing with
everyone you come in contact with, and look them in the
eye when talking with them.
The eyes can be a very powerful weapon around
other males as well. When you see a potential threat, or
some other guy is trying to move in on your girl, squint
your eyes a bit, and stare directly at his forehead.
Squinting the eyes allows you to focus in on the threat
and lowers the eyebrows resulting in a menacing look.
We are all taught to look someone in the eyes when talk-ing to them. It is considered a sign of respect. Looking
at someone, then looking down is a sign of submission,
another thing that as an Alpha Male we do not do. By
staring at their forehead, you are saying, “I don’t respect
you, I am more powerful than you, this is my territory!”
For the person on the other end of the look, it can be
very intimidating.
Chin Up
Keeping the chin up keeps the eyes from looking
down. Looking down is a sign of submission. Holding
your chin high allows your facial profile to be seen more
easily by women. The Alpha Male doesn’t hide what he
has, he proudly displays what he has got. By sticking
out your chin you are making yourself vulnerable to at-tack while at the same time signaling all comers, “Take
your best shot, you can’t knock me out!” Holding you
head high also helps you to stand tall and keep your
shoulders back.
Shaking Hands
A simple handshake determines who is domi-nant. When reaching out for a handshake, you can ex-tend your hand one of three ways. You can extend the hand with the palm up, showing submission. You can extend with the hand straight up and down, displaying that you consider the other person your equal, or you can you show your dominance by extending your hand with the palm facing down. If another male tries to show his dominance when shaking your hand, you can counteract this by stepping forward with your left foot when reaching for his hand. This will cause him to pull his hand back to make room for your advance, turning his palm vertically. This will bring you to a handshake of mutual respect. But we are the Alpha male, we want to show dominance. Place your left hand, palm down, on top of the handshake, or take your left hand and grab their elbow. Both are displays of dominance over the other.
Adjusting the Crotch
A man will adjust his crotch when his junk is uncomfortable. This is usually done without much thought. However, to do this openly is both a display of power and a sexual display, “My dick is bigger then yours!” or, “Ladies! Check out my cock!” It sounds funny and stupid, but done subtly can be powerful on a woman’s subconscious.
Hands at Your Sides
Keep your hands down at your sides at all times with your palms facing out. Doing so shows a signal of openness, you are inviting a target to come talk to you. What does this pose remind you of? Jesus. Ninety per-cent of all images have Jesus standing with open arms, palms exposed. This invites people in. Folding your arms across your chest shows that you are closed. Guys who hold their hands do so as a comforting act, showing they are uncomfortable, or hold their hands in front of their crotch showing fear. In the bars a lot of guys will hold their drinks up at chest level. Even this move creates a barrier. Set your drink down, show the world that you are comfortable in your surroundings. Remember, open and approachable.
Cowboy
The most sexually enticing pose an Alpha Male can make is the "cowboy." This is done while standing, with your legs shoulder width apart, toes pointing out, all the things we have been talking about. Place your hands on your hips, with your thumbs tucked into your belt or pants pocket with your fingers pointing in the direction of your crotch. It resembles the pose of a gun slinger from the old west getting ready for a quick draw. Sticking your hands on your hips places the elbows out, making you appear bigger. The hands on the hips draw attention to your crotch, signaling your sexual power. Standing with your legs shoulder width apart, toes pointed out, is saying that you are open for communica-tion.
After Sex
After having sex with a woman, most men want to roll over and fall asleep, however this little tip can help make you a sex god in the eyes of women. After the deed is done, women want to talk, and let out their emo-tions, while for guys, we just want to fall asleep. Prop yourself up on your side with your head on your hand, looking at the girl. This will make you appear that you are interested in what she has to say, but allowing you to close your eyes and get that much needed rest. Just because you don’t care what she has to say, doesn’t mean it has to look that way.
You know who gets the most pussy in the animal kingdom, the Alpha Male. Why, because he goes around chasing the female animals and if any male gets in his way while he is trying to hump he kicks their ass. He displays dominant body language scaring off the other males, and at the same time attracts the females. He doesn’t let the other males take away the females he wants, he dominates. As you gain confidence with women and learn the pick up signals, you too will be-come the Alpha Male. The Alpha Male is not always the biggest, or the best looking. He is the smartest. The Alpha Male uses the tools he has to his advantage. He walks around with confidence because he is confident in himself and his abilities. Alpha Males don’t make ex-cuses, they take what they have and make the most of every situation.
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